This is probably more info than you care to know… but I like it and want the world to know why we function like we do! Haha.
Praying Pelican made us take Strengths Finders test when we applied. I’ve always liked to take personality tests… even way back to the Seventeen magazine days when you took them to see who you would marry. Those entertained me for YEARS! I love to figure out why I function like I do and how other people are different. This test was pretty interesting and actually showed me a lot about myself… and Jacob. It’s a great tool really.
The test goes through lots of questions and a rapid pace so you are answering on your first instinct… or not at all. Some questions I got some frazzled and confused on my answer, the question disappeared… but I guess that shows something about me too. At the end of the test it reveals your top 5 “strengths” or characteristic traits that are prominent in you. The book also emphasizes how the strengths, if not used correctly can become weaknesses, or what they call “Basements.”
Anywho… without futher ado… (I know you are all waiting in anticipation to know – not) here’s what it said are our top 5’s:
You are generous with praise, quick to smile, and always on the lookout for the positive in the situation. Some call you lighthearted. Others just wish that their glass were as full as yours seems to be. But either way, people want to be around you. Their world looks better around you because your enthusiasm is contagious. Lacking your energy and optimism, some find their world drab with repetition or, worse, heavy with pressure. You seem to find a way to lighten their spirit. You inject drama into every project. You celebrate every achievement. You find ways to make everything more exciting and more vital. Some cynics may reject your energy, but you are rarely dragged down. Your Positivity won’t allow it. Somehow you can’t quite escape your conviction that it is good to be alive, that work can be fun, and that no matter what the setbacks, one must never lose one’s sense of humor.
This means I like to be happy… like, really happy. This is my number one so it’s pretty dominant. BUT if someone is negative or says something even a little mean… I have the tendency to take it extremely personal and carry it around for days/years! So, I’ve learned that when negativity comes my way… like Mariah Carey says I have to “shake it off.”
If you possess a strong Belief theme, you have certain core values that are enduring. These core values affect your behavior in many ways. They give your life meaning and satisfaction; in your view, success is more than money and prestige. They provide you with direction, guiding you through the temptations and distractions of life toward a consistent set of priorities. This consistency is the foundation for all your relationships. Your friends call you dependable. “I know where you stand,” they say. Your Belief makes you easy to trust. It also demands that you find work that meshes with your values. Your work must be meaningful; it must matter to you. And guided by your Belief theme it will matter only if it gives you a chance to live out your values.
My belief = Jesus. Yep. Yep. I do hope people see that in me and trust me because I prove that Jesus, not me myself, is trustworthy and worth living for!
#3 Woo – My fav because it’s called WOO!
Woo stands for winning others over. You enjoy the challenge of meeting new people and getting them to like you. Strangers are rarely intimidating to you. On the contrary, strangers can be energizing. You are drawn to them. You want to learn their names, ask them questions, and find some area of common interest so that you can strike up a conversation and build rapport. Some people shy away from starting up conversations because they worry about running out of things to say. You don’t. Not only are you rarely at a loss for words; you actually enjoy initiating with strangers because you derive satisfaction from breaking the ice and making a connection. Once that connection is made, you are quite happy to wrap it up and move on. There are new people to meet, new rooms to work, new crowds to mingle in. In your world there are no strangers, only friends you haven’t met yet—lots of them.
Yep… totally me! Ask any of our youth and they remember the first day I came to a youth service because I “terrorized and terrified” them getting into their business right when I met them! It’s my favorite thing! That last sentence gets me… haha.
You like to explain, to describe, to host, to speak in public, and to write. This is your Communication theme at work. Ideas are a dry beginning. Events are static. You feel a need to bring them to life, to energize them, to make them exciting and vivid. And so you turn events into stories and practice telling them. You take the dry idea and enliven it with images and examples and metaphors. You believe that most people have a very short attention span. They are bombarded by information, but very little of it survives. You want your information—whether an idea, an event, a product’s features and benefits, a discovery, or a lesson—to survive. You want to divert their attention toward you and then capture it, lock it in. This is what drives your hunt for the perfect phrase. This is what draws you toward dramatic words and powerful word combinations. This is why people like to listen to you. Your word pictures pique their interest, sharpen their world, and inspire them to act.
I do like to talk and write… but I’m not sure if this one describes me. It sounds WAY too elegant for my way of explaining things! My way = lots of hand gestures, stumbling over words, loud noises, yelling, and maybe some crying. Either way… it said it was my #4. Whatev…
“Stretch the circle wider.” This is the philosophy around which you orient your life. You want to include people and make them feel part of the group. In direct contrast to those who are drawn only to exclusive groups, you actively avoid those groups that exclude others. You want to expand the group so that as many people as possible can benefit from its support. You hate the sight of someone on the outside looking in. You want to draw them in so that they can feel the warmth of the group. You are an instinctively accepting person. Regardless of race or sex or nationality or personality or faith, you cast few judgments. Judgments can hurt a person’s feelings. Why do that if you don’t have to? Your accepting nature does not necessarily rest on a belief that each of us is different and that one should respect these differences. Rather, it rests on your conviction that fundamentally we are all the same. We are all equally important. Thus, no one should be ignored. Each of us should be included. It is the least we all deserve.
I love this. I do want to include everyone. Not that I don’t judge people… because that’s a lie… but I do want everyone to have friends, family, and feel like they belong. I think my WOO and Includer go hand-in-hand – if someone isn’t a part of the group or doesn’t want to be a part of the group… it’s a challenge and goal for me to bridge the gap!!!
…on to my hubby’s. I think our 5 compliment and contrast each other’s well.
Same description as above.
He does communicate things VERY well – he is the most direct, honest, and trustworthy person I know. He is also the M.O.S.T. detailed story-teller you will ever meet. I promise by the end of the story you will know every article of clothing the people in the story were wearing, the temperature outside on that day, and possibly every single event leading up to the main point of the story. I love it. Makes me laugh. BUT… his point is for you to understand FULLY what’s happening. He HATES miscommunication or misunderstanding because details are left out. He wants his stories, sermons, or thoughts to be captivating and well-thought out. My Indian name for him is “Truth Speaker” because I believe that’s his calling in life… to speak the Truth to people in love and boldness… to me, to youth, to everyone he meets.
The Strategic theme enables you to sort through the clutter and find the best route. It is not a skill that can be taught. It is a distinct way of thinking, a special perspective on the world at large. This perspective allows you to see patterns where others simply see complexity. Mindful of these patterns, you play out alternative scenarios, always asking, “What if this happened? Okay, well what if this happened?” This recurring question helps you see around the next corner. There you can evaluate accurately the potential obstacles. Guided by where you see each path leading, you start to make selections. You discard the paths that lead nowhere. You discard the paths that lead straight into resistance. You discard the paths that lead into a fog of confusion. You cull and make selections until you arrive at the chosen path—your strategy. Armed with your strategy, you strike forward. This is your Strategic theme at work: “What if?” Select. Strike.
Thank God he has this as #2… if not, he would never be able to understand me or reign me in! He has to cut through the clutter of my ideas and craziness. He is the logic to my chaos! 🙂 If he didn’t have this as a strength, I assure you, we would be broke, lost in the woods somewhere, and have 17,000 things we volunteer for. Ha!
Command leads you to take charge. Unlike some people, you feel no discomfort with imposing your views on others. On the contrary, once your opinion is formed, you need to share it with others. Once your goal is set, you feel restless until you have aligned others with you. You are not frightened by confrontation; rather, you know that confrontation is the first step toward resolution. Whereas others may avoid facing up to life’s unpleasantness, you feel compelled to present the facts or the truth, no matter how unpleasant it may be. You need things to be clear between people and challenge them to be clear-eyed and honest. You push them to take risks. You may even intimidate them. And while some may resent this, labeling you opinionated, they often willingly hand you the reins. People are drawn toward those who take a stance and ask them to move in a certain direction. Therefore, people will be drawn to you. You have presence. You have Command.
Yep… this is my hubster. A manly man who knows where he stands. He is always gonna tell it like it is. So, if you have a dress that you think might make you look fat… don’t ask him if it does… he can’t help but confront the truth! ha!
Same as above.
Yep… this is why we are married and what we do what we do. So that’s that.
Self-Assurance is similar to self-confidence. In the deepest part of you, you have faith in your strengths. You know that you are able—able to take risks, able to meet new challenges, able to stake claims, and, most important, able to deliver. But Self-Assurance is more than just self-confidence. Blessed with the theme of Self-assurance, you have confidence not only in your abilities but in your judgment. When you look at the world, you know that your perspective is unique and distinct. And because no one sees exactly what you see, you know that no one can make your decisions for you. No one can tell you what to think. They can guide. They can suggest. But you alone have the authority to form conclusions, make decisions, and act. This authority, this final accountability for the living of your life, does not intimidate you. On the contrary, it feels natural to you. No matter what the situation, you seem to know what the right decision is. This theme lends you an aura of certainty. Unlike many, you are not easily swayed by someone else’s arguments, no matter how persuasive they may be. This Self-Assurance may be quiet or loud, depending on your other themes, but it is solid. It is strong. Like the keel of a ship, it withstands many different pressures and keeps you on your course.
Yep. This is why I love him. This is why he is the leader of our home. He is discerning and wise… and strong.
So there we are in all our glory… just in case you cared to know.